Today I got my daughter’s mid-term report card and let’s just say, I am not very happy and satisfied. Although her grades are average, she can improve more but she’s just not doing it. The teacher even told me that she noticed how my daughter was so complacent while the others were serious with their studies.
I have been through this tough road before and my daughter knows that when I finally give an ultimatum, that is is! I have extended her ultimatum so many times since her Grade 6 days. I just don’t understand why she cannot focus on her studies while her classmates and friends can.
I asked her if she has any issues or problems she wants to discuss but she just shrugs her shoulders. I know she’s going through a phase and I have been through that too but she has to adapt too. It can’t be just a one-way road for us where the parents keep adjusting to when she is finally ready to take things (studies primarily!) seriously. I keep telling her that she will make her future for her. We, as parents can only guide her towards her dreams. But by the looks of it, my daughter is simply satisfied getting average marks, not excelling on anything, just drawing manga stuff, engaging on anime forums but never to her study.
People can’t say that my husband and I are spoiling her. As a matter of fact, she is still grounded since her Grade 7 last term because again, she did not deliver good grades when we had a deal.
I am really mad, lost and losing my patience with her. She can’t keep pulling the “teen-angst” card on us because not all teens go through a dark phase. Like I said, I have been a teenager too but then, I knew exactly what I would like to become and I never, ever treated my parents with disrespect.
I feel like throwing her stuff out of the window and just sending her home for good. I mean, I would rather spend money to a poor kid whom I don’t know than pay her exorbitant tuition fees when clearly, she is not interested to study. What does she want to do with her life then? Throw it away? Be a bum? Be supported even through our old age? Common on, we can only do so much as parents but we need to take credit too. It can’t be a one way street here!
So, I punished her and this time I am not going to feel guilty about it. I already brought her a Christmas gift but I feel she does not deserve it because all she wants, she gets. This time, my rule! If she wants something, she will definitely work triple hard to get it and she has to prove us that she deserves what ever she wants. Drill-sergeant mom or iron-clad, call me names but I don’t care anymore. I have reached the point where I have to give her tough love. How else will she learn how to prioritize and set her goals and actually achieve them… if she even has any.
Parenting is tough. It is even tougher if your only child does the exact opposite of what you silently dream him or her to become. Don’t get me wrong, I want the best for her and only the very best but with how she is performing in school and practically in everything, I am now wondering…